One of the most difficult times in life is that surrounding the death of an individual. It can be very hard forming the words to express condolences to their surviving family members. There are a few key points that may help writing Sympathy Notes just a little easier.
These tokens of condolence are quite often very comforting to the family both during their time of mourning, as well as their period of healing. They let them know that others share their grief and sorrow. Many times, the hardest part of penning these messages is saying how you feel while taking care not to stir tender emotions.
One thing to keep in mind is that the message does not have to be long. A few heartfelt words can say much more than an extended letter at such a time as this. The condolences should be sent by mail or delivered by hand, not through email or phone text, as soon as possible after becoming aware of the death, even if it is a year later.
They should be written on good stationery, a blank card or one printed for this reason. When sending flowers, take the time to jot down just a simple sentiment. A formal condolence should still be sent separately even if one was sent with the floral arrangement.
It is very important that the words used feel natural and not as some generic sentiment. Some commonly expressed condolences are that one’s thoughts and prayers are with the family, or that sorrow is felt over this loss. Many also mention that the deceased individual will be missed.
Another good idea is sharing just a brief memory of the individual that is positive and uplifting. If extending an offer of assistance, be specific as to what type of help is intended such as bringing food, taking care of errands or just being available to listen should they want to talk. Just remember to keep sentiments brief and heartfelt.