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Coping With Death of Someone Close to
You
By Niko Silvia
You may be finding yourself confused about what your
response should be to losing a grandparent, spouse,
parent, or close friend. What should you do now? What
are the feelings that you should be experiencing? Are
the thoughts and feelings that you are having typical of
someone in your situation? Many individuals coping with
death of a loved one, have erroneous ideas about how
they should deal with the situation, and when they find
that their reactions don't correspond with the reactions
that they believe they should be experiencing, then they
are concerned that they are abnormal. You need to
realize that there are, in fact, no set rules, or quick
fix for coping with death, but instead, you will need to
take each day a step at a time.
Holding on to these beliefs about the way you think you
are supposed to feel, actually cause additional upset,
as you continue the process of coping with death. Trying
to ignore your pain, and expecting that it will soon be
a thing of the past will not work. Not allowing your
feelings of grief to surface, and failure to figure out
why you are feeling them, will prevent you from moving
past them, and in time, these feelings will begin to
wear you down. Whether you are a rather fragile person,
or an extremely strong person, doesn't matter as much as
whether or not you are truthful about the way you are
feeling. When you conceal your feelings, and don't allow
them to be experienced, only bad things will happen.
Many individuals associate crying with coping with
death, a large number of individuals will cry when they
lose a loved one, but, if crying is not your way of
coping with losing a loved one, that does not mean that
you are not experiencing the same feelings of grief that
the person who cries is.
Lastly, the grieving process does not have a time limit,
as some individuals may grieve for several weeks, while
others will grieve for years. Whatever the amount of
time you may need, it is important that you begin coping
with death in the way that is appropriate for you, so
that your life can continue, and you can eventually make
it through the grieving process. By doing this, you can
fondly remember the relationship that you shared with
your loved one, and avoid letting their death keep you
from experiencing joy in your life.
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