How Long Does Grief Stay?
By Rosalinda Flores-Martinez
Everybody tries to avoid this word "grief." As much as
possible you don't like to talk about it, you deny it.
But it happens, and life is rough sometimes.
You say "It's okay," but it's not okay. You try to hide
what's in your mind; that little black box.
How do you cope with grief?
No one can avoid grief. Each carries lives with him/her
on the journey. You walk alone, but others are hanging
on with you. You become their pride, their alliance,
their spare tire. How can you be so low?
You prod them to advance in your hint of indifference
and dash of arrogance. Your tears are never shown
because you strive to struggle with something more than
your grief. You make it hard for them to catch with you,
but you are just there. How long can you stride without
falling?
Have you watched how poor kids share leftovers?
Have you seen how a father gets murdered?
Have you felt how someone grieves over a beloved's
failure?
Have you been with someone in an incurable sickness, or
are you?
Have you skipped meals and worked hard just to be
mistreated?
Have you paid for others, but never was repaid?
How many deaths have you witnessed? How many deaths have
you missed?
Have you been to a war?
Your grief has been too heavy. I don't know how much
grief buries you down.
Please let me weep with you. Please let me weep with
you.
And like the others, I adore you for keeping up with
life and still trying to be someone so respectable. I
could imagine how you cry in your thoughts; how like
blade, it cuts your heart, your throat, the top of your
skull - slowly. Like wars in history, there were no
exits and there were no choices. If you were there, you
had to face those rattling guns.
Plead, please plead.
Times like these remember "Our Lady of Sorrows," you can
look up to her. Mary carried part of the grief Jesus
Christ has been carrying to save us/mankind, during the
crucifixion. Mary had no one with her. She was helpless,
yet in those moments, God's strength kept her unmovable
and brave.
How long does grief stay?
People are not things.
How long does grief stay?
If you lost something, you can always build it again.
How long does grief stay?
If you lost someone, and someone, and someone again in
any way - they are part of you.
For as long as you live, grief changes into remembering
happy days with each other.
Grief stays, it becomes faithfulness.
Grief stays, it changes unto faith.
Those drops of blood, while Jesus prayed in the garden
is grief.
Grief is never having to say "I grieve,"
but "I love."
This is how long grief stays. |